This the reason, people difficult to apologize

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When making a mistake, the first thing to do to show remorse is to apologize and promise not to repeat the same mistakes.

Moreover apology can reduce the guilt and help improve the image of people make mistakes. Yet there are still also people who are reluctant to apologize. What's behind it?

According to a new study from Australia, apparently refused to apologize it provides a more powerful psychological benefits that enhance self-esteem.

This conclusion was obtained after lead researcher Dr. Tyler Okimoto from the University of Queensland Business School conducted two experiments. In the first experiment, researchers recruited 228 people aged 18-77 years. Participants were divided into three groups: the first group was asked to recall a time when they have to make others angry and willing to apologize.

The second group was asked to recall a time when they make mistakes on other people but refuse to apologize, while the third group was asked to remember a time when they make mistakes on other people, but do not regret and do not refuse to apologize.

As a result, participants who refused to apologize reported feeling greater power and higher self-esteem than participants who are willing to ask for forgiveness. Actually, when compared to not do anything about it, apologize also said can increase self-esteem, just that refused to apologize benefit self-esteem that is bigger than apologize.

To verify these findings, a second trial was held. In this experiment, researchers recruited 219 adults aged 18-71 years. Participants were also divided into three groups: the first group was asked to write an email with apologies to anyone who ever made the mistake of participants in the real world.

The second group was asked to write an apology email rejection, while the third group given the mistakes that they had just done but was not asked to write anything. From there it is known that participants who refused to apologize felt had greater self-esteem than participants who did not write the email at all. But participants who apologized, not obtain any benefit.

"It appears that the perceived benefits by those who refused to apologize is prevent potential negative impacts on self-esteem, especially as a form of defense against harmful actions or threats from the outside," said Dr. Okimoto as reported by the Daily Mail.

The study has been published in the European Journal of Social Psychology.