5 Suggestions that sex life is not disrupted after the Have a baby

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After marriage, husband and wife love life is often changed, in fact rarely changes up to 180 degrees. Most of the reason is because of the kids. Parenting drain a lot of energy and mind, to the extent that couples no longer have time for sex.

"There's no doubt about it. Currently exceeds the number of parents from their children, the birth of her second baby shifting family dynamics as a whole. Ensued balance changes. Couple should be a pillar of the household, not the house that became a giant playroom," says family therapist, Carleton Kendrick as reported by WebMD, Thursday (08/11/2012)

Caring for a newborn is quite bothersome. Usually when a second child was born, the first child was old enough to be somewhat independent and likes to help. However, increasing the number of a baby while young children in the household would be horrible and increase the workload of more than 2-fold.

One study found that the average parent who has had children just had to take the time for 20 minutes a week to do an intimate activity. Therefore, both partners should look at the lack of intimacy as a new opportunity to strengthen the relationship.

"In my experience, sex is actually more fun for couples who already have children, having just finished doing a bit of work," says Kendrick.

Kendrick gives some advice for married love life can re-excited after having a baby, that is:

1. Redefining sex

For couples who have had children, sex is not purely matters of sex. Sex can mean just a gentle kiss in the morning. For the husband, can be stroked hair wife for a few minutes. Thus, couples intimacy will remain intact.

2. Deepen back

Do not talk about the kids all the time. Although it is difficult, but occasionally this theme should be avoided by couples. Try to talk about anything that had often discussed together. Let the conversations youth back to life.

3. Creative thinking

Nanny or babysitter can take children walk around the house. At that time, the couple had enough time to get together. Some couples are creative enough to recall his youth. Making out in the car or going out in the garden for an hour will suffice.

4. Spontaneous

Spontaneous sex is always fun. Steal time at a time when your child is busy playing or napping can deliver a shock within the marital relationship. No need to linger and place it anywhere. The important thing is private and remains in the house.

5. Realistic

Pressure of work and raising children is obviously drain a lot of energy. No need to force yourself to have sex with a partner if you can not afford. Recognize that stress must succumb to the condition of the body is also a positive step that husband and wife can understand each other better.

source:  WebMD